Today's world is full of unhappy people. We see these unhappy people every where we turn. They are driving on the roads with us, shopping at the local grocery store, dining in our favorite restaurant, teaching in our schools, and working beside us. We even find those unhappy people living in our own homes. Sometimes that unhappy person is ourselves.
However there is one important life lesson that I have learned the hard way -- ultimately we control our own happiness. No one and no thing can make us happy and no one or no thing can make us unhappy. We choose how we react to people and their actions and we choose how we react to our wants and desires.
As the old song goes: "Happiness is wanting what you have."
It is OK to want more than you currently own in terms of your personal or professional life. In fact it is good and healthy to have goals and dreams. However it is not healthy to base your happiness on the achievement of those goals.
That is a sure-fire path to unhappiness for a number of reasons. First because you are putting off happiness while you work toward your goal -- many goals that are worth attaining will take a long time to reach. Do you want to be unhappy for all that time?
Second life is full of surprises and the best-laid plans sometimes change. If you are basing your happiness on the end goal then you might miss a great deal of happiness (not to mention opportunities for even more happiness) by not allowing yourself the flexibility to adjust your path or even change your mind.
Third you may well be placing your happiness beyond your reach. Sometimes, due to circumstances beyond our control, we do not attain our personal or professional goals. Sometimes we can do everything within our power and everything possible -- and we still fail. Failure is a natural result of living a full life and it does not naturally lead to disaster. Sometimes failure simply leads to another opportunity or goal. However if you have tied your happiness to the success of a goal then failure can certainly mean disaster for you.
However there is one important life lesson that I have learned the hard way -- ultimately we control our own happiness. No one and no thing can make us happy and no one or no thing can make us unhappy. We choose how we react to people and their actions and we choose how we react to our wants and desires.
As the old song goes: "Happiness is wanting what you have."
It is OK to want more than you currently own in terms of your personal or professional life. In fact it is good and healthy to have goals and dreams. However it is not healthy to base your happiness on the achievement of those goals.
That is a sure-fire path to unhappiness for a number of reasons. First because you are putting off happiness while you work toward your goal -- many goals that are worth attaining will take a long time to reach. Do you want to be unhappy for all that time?
Second life is full of surprises and the best-laid plans sometimes change. If you are basing your happiness on the end goal then you might miss a great deal of happiness (not to mention opportunities for even more happiness) by not allowing yourself the flexibility to adjust your path or even change your mind.
Third you may well be placing your happiness beyond your reach. Sometimes, due to circumstances beyond our control, we do not attain our personal or professional goals. Sometimes we can do everything within our power and everything possible -- and we still fail. Failure is a natural result of living a full life and it does not naturally lead to disaster. Sometimes failure simply leads to another opportunity or goal. However if you have tied your happiness to the success of a goal then failure can certainly mean disaster for you.
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